Relationships

As you grow, you learn. You learn through experience and through the people who you encounter in life, and the relationships you hold with people.

The word relationship doesn't mean in love and going out. Relationship has many different context. I have a relationship with my dad, he's my father, a relationship with ernest, he's my friend, a relationship with Sean, I would kick his ass if I ever saw with him, a relationship with Ginger, I don't know what to call it, Karl Ricak, he's my professor I go to when I have problems.

To an extent, I have a responsibility to these people as they do me. Lets start with the lowest. Karl Ricak, my professor. We are responsible for atleast keeping up a friendly how are you basis relationship. It doesn't have to be anything big or important but enough to say yea we talked, so can I ask you for such and such later? Like I can ask him to get information for me, lend me a book, yata yata. He helps me out by recommending me to people, guiding me on what I should do next. If I don't take the responsibilty of keeping up a tactful relationship with him, I would lose him as a guide for my career.

Omg, I skipped over Sean. Ok my relationship with this dude is pure hate. He lies a lot number on. Then takes shit and doesn't tell you and doesn't return it. And then he talks dirty behind your back all the time. So my relationship with this guy is simply put, asshole.

Ernest is now one of my good guys friends. I have a pretty good relationship to him. We are responsible for how each of us feels. Like if I'm in a bad mood, he would ask and try to cheer me up, and vice versa. Infact all three of us(roomates) look out for each other. Like this wknd when me and Ernest saw BY with Brandons girl? Cynthia, when he knows he's not suppose to do that. So we told Brandon who was out of town. We cover each other for bills, give each other rides, etc etc. We look out for one another and that is what friends do. We keep on each other lives, talk about each other problems, remember that each person has to be respected, etc. We are responsbile for each other to keep each of us from fucking up. Lol, the nickel jar. Those two guys are really good friends.

Now when it comes to Ginger, things get more complicated. Its not just simple tact like with me and Karl that we have to keep going. Like everyone else, I am responsible for what I say to her and the impact it might have on her life. Also because of the level of the relationship, I am even more so responsible. But the problem is sometimes she forget to show any responsibility towards me, like not even on the level of me and Karl. One thing she has to learn is tact. I'm not her boyfriend but that doesn't mean she has no responsibilty towards me, and should block things out. But she has changed some over the past two years.

Even Lisa, who has a boyfriend and she is just a friend of mine has a responsibilty towards me. And she shows it too, like caring when I'm mad, making time out of her life and boyfriend to hang out do things, being attentive towards how I feel, etc. Its not a boyfriend girlfriend thing to remember the small stuff and not block out the important things. Its what people should do irregardles, its being tactful. And when Lisa messes up, like completely forgeting to call back and leaves me waiting in the library by myself, she doesn't make a bunch of excuses but simply says I'm sorry, and I can't stay mad at that when a person does that. She does have a responbility of her actions towrds me.

And last is my father. We have the most responsibility towards each other. He is responsible to make sure I'm alright and have everything I need. In turn, i'm resonsible and have the obligation of not letting him down. Thats why I bought him the most expensive gift for christmas as a way for saying thank you.

But point being, no matter what the relationship, a person is responsible towards someone else. From teacher to father to lover, there is a certian degree and ways people should treat each other. Its sort of like wat tact and respect is combined. Except Sean, each of these people I am responbile to how they feel and how I present myself to them and what i say to them.